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Love is a positive feedback loop

Page history last edited by Alex Backer, Ph.D. 2 years, 10 months ago

What is love? It's perhaps the most meaningful of human experiences and cognitive phenomena. It transforms people. It is often an integral part of reproduction and mating, which lies at the core of biology itself. And yet, we don't really understand what it is. 

 

What is it that transforms two people? Why is it they see each other in a way nobody else sees them? 

 

Here, I posit that love is a positive feedback loop of the ways that two people react to each other. Like many positive feedback loops, it is explosive. 

 

John Gottman posited that the durability of couples can be predicted from the way each member of the couple responds to what he calls "bids", or requests for attention, from the other.

 

The way that one person in the couple looks at the other, treats the other, etc. can lead to a cascade of positive responses that creates a different reality for the couple.

 

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